tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post2845665843214361031..comments2023-08-03T00:52:47.341-07:00Comments on Pass The Zoloft: Taking a Little Guilt TripAndrea Frazerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14293267612840259503noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-6848002812839503182008-02-16T15:13:00.000-08:002008-02-16T15:13:00.000-08:00I'm a working dad. I love the hell out of my kids...I'm a working dad. I love the hell out of my kids. This guilt of which you speak is not something entirely cornered by moms.TroyBoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01243592284623781885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-43667051866722449272008-02-12T03:33:00.000-08:002008-02-12T03:33:00.000-08:00I was a single parent for many of my children's fo...I was a single parent for many of my children's formative years and I had to work outside the home. Guilt a batch. But it all seemed to work out, somehow.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040757371778588395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-51444334019341015002008-02-10T14:34:00.000-08:002008-02-10T14:34:00.000-08:00I was a working mom and raised two boys who gradua...I was a working mom and raised two boys who graduated from high school in 1989 & 1991. I was in the minority being a working mom vs. SAHM back then. I struggled, especially when I was tired. But managed by making time with them a Special Event. Every Friday night we watched "The Hulk" the whole family, all four of us. "The Million Dollar Man" was another favorite for family time. We played games, visited all of the museums, etc. in Chicago with regularity. I believed then (and now) that working made me a better person, ergo, a better mom. I needed the mental, emotional, and social stimulation. The balance is just what you describe... finding mental, and emotional strength then to "BE" with them.<BR/><BR/>I still say, I would have "BEEN THERE" less for them had I been a SAHM. It's in my genes. My mom worked when I was a child, mostly because she, too, needed it for personal fulfillment. I don't think I missed out. My boys didn't miss out. Neither do your children.<BR/><BR/>You do all the right things. So relax and ENJOY it!!! (And by all means escape to the computer during Scooby-Doo!) :) Just have a pillow fight when you join them again!!!!PJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10630048078969557476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-6281695609443771312008-02-10T14:21:00.000-08:002008-02-10T14:21:00.000-08:00You need to teach your kiddies to pull up their pa...You need to teach your kiddies to pull up their panties. I mean, I can almost see..oh. They liked it that way huh? Oh well, what happened in Vegas, stayed in Vegas..or DID it?<BR/><BR/>Balance...sheesh. I try and lose all too often.<BR/>I think the fact that you try is all important. Really I do! So many just do not care. Really. I have see that.<BR/><BR/>Your family will be just fine, so will you. IT will all work out. I promise. The kids are happiest when YOU are happiest. You are happy when working. Soo...see?<BR/><BR/>All will be fine.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>SueSusie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14878113034866113803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-89863954073502854522008-02-08T17:26:00.000-08:002008-02-08T17:26:00.000-08:00bad mommy. bad. not raising...wait. what were we t...bad mommy. bad. not raising...<BR/><BR/>wait. what were we talking about again? i got distracted by the meat sticks you're standing between.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12530766193268054815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-30911287783573840422008-02-08T12:30:00.000-08:002008-02-08T12:30:00.000-08:00Men should not wear jeans that are low enough to r...Men should not wear jeans that are low enough to require waxing.Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17246821031136701973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-13559533613611063582008-02-08T07:04:00.000-08:002008-02-08T07:04:00.000-08:00This is something I've struggled with since I've b...This is something I've struggled with since I've been a full time working mom.<BR/><BR/>For me, I try to do something that resembles one on one quality time with each kid every day. Between school, work, making dinner, eating dinner, cleaning up after dinner (or supervising the kids), exercise time, bath time, story time, bed time, etc., it's actually an ambitious goal!<BR/><BR/>Last night I took my oldest to the guitar store and got her a new pack of guitar strings. On the way, we chuckled about some of the crazy things she did as a little kid.<BR/><BR/>I played a game of chess with my son (and beat him for the third night in a row - maybe I should let him win?)<BR/><BR/>My four year old and I colored a page in her coloring book and then we snuggled together and played our tickle game before her bedtime story.<BR/><BR/>The night before all three kids did Tae-Bo with me. Which was pretty fun. We were giggling throughout the whole thing!<BR/><BR/>Just enjoy them, let them have some time away from you (watching scooby) and give yourself some time too. Everyone will be happy that way. <BR/><BR/>-end of novelMonnikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998729112903749621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-81854709219289226812008-02-08T05:58:00.000-08:002008-02-08T05:58:00.000-08:00I don't care how good a mom you are, Scooby Doo is...I don't care how good a mom you are, Scooby Doo is beyond the call of duty.Toni Lea Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05019145772583242781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-40823997972201482262008-02-07T21:48:00.000-08:002008-02-07T21:48:00.000-08:00Ah, guilt. I can sooooo relate to this post! I hav...Ah, guilt. I can sooooo relate to this post! I have spent a lot of time dwelling on this and you know what absolutely totally has helped the most? Reading blogs like this one and others on BabyCenter and realizing it's actually (unfortunately) pretty normal to feel this way. <BR/><BR/>Remember - we're usually our own harshest critics and worry too much about what other people think. I learned that from some great blogs!<BR/><BR/>You love your kids and you treat them right. And you look thin. And you're happy and you're writing and your brain is humming. Am I right? Did I mention you look thin? It's all good. We're all good. Gotta go to sleep now.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16039352159515891930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-53351702965935617522008-02-07T20:31:00.000-08:002008-02-07T20:31:00.000-08:00Balance...the only place I'm balanced is on my hea...Balance...the only place I'm balanced is on my head in yoga. Everywhere else, not so much. (crap! I used the shift key again! shh! tell no one!)<BR/><BR/>Yes, the kids either want you nonstop or not at all. It's maddening. And the working guilt, the blogging guilt...will it never stop?<BR/><BR/>oh, but you are catholic, right? hmmph.Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-38250358752536524432008-02-07T20:06:00.000-08:002008-02-07T20:06:00.000-08:00I'm single, no hubby, no kids and I STILL can't ke...I'm single, no hubby, no kids and I STILL can't keep track of my life...<BR/><BR/>I think you are probably doing pretty great merely because you think about it and you are aware. Seems you may be a few steps ahead of a lot of moms.<BR/><BR/>Especially raising boys with abs. I mean really. That must have been so hard. lol.Jamie Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10450175007149541963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-14785588384760394172008-02-07T20:00:00.000-08:002008-02-07T20:00:00.000-08:00Um...the child on your left, my right needs to cov...Um...the child on your left, my right needs to cover up his pina colada. I can almost see it. Not that there's anything wrong with that...I guess. :)<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the balance and no guilt thing. Let me know when you find your spot and I'll try to emulate...Gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576409086020993015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14354210.post-26732629716669807772008-02-07T18:41:00.000-08:002008-02-07T18:41:00.000-08:00I don't know...I don't really balance it all that ...I don't know...I don't really balance it all that well myself. I usually fit some work in at nap time, during school (though I only have one old enough for "real" school) and at night. But sometimes I find myself parenting from behind the computer screen, too. I think we just do our best and that's all we can do. If you're conscious of spending time with your children, I'm sure you're putting in more than enough. <BR/><BR/>And yes, I'm the Ashley from Babycenter! (who commented on your "Public/Private school" post. :)Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13923656564379426419noreply@blogger.com